Personal development is, in the end, what it’s all about. Jim Rohn has said for years “Work harder on yourself than on your job”. Your worth, in the marketplace, depends on your ability to deliver value.
“OK,”, you say “what does that mean? What parts of me do I need to develop?”. Well, the short answer is “all of them”. However, that’s kind of daunting and also not very efficient. We’ve all heard, in church, “be more like Jesus”. That statement is the key – both in the literal sense and as a principle.
Let’s talk about the principle and leave the other for church – the principle is “Find someone who is successful, in your field, and work to be more like them”. This is called modeling – as in “model yourself after …”. An example, if your goal is to be successful in real-estate, you might study Donald Trump. If your field is finance, Steve Forbes.
So what’s the catch? Wellllll, there’s two parts to the above:
- Pick a model
- work to be like that model.
But, each of those two parts has some parts.
It looks like this:
- Pick a field
- Pick a model
- Work to be like the model
- Find information
- Get mentoring
Notice that “Pick a field” comes first – see Dreams and Goals and Plans – if you didn’t read those parts first.
Let’s assume that you’ve got a dream and a plan, Now you pick someone or some someones (it doesn’t have to be one) to model. “Right!” you say, “I just walk into Donald Trump’s office, and say ‘Don! Baby! Be my mentor’”. Well yes, in a sense.
Many, many of the true models in the world are accessible. They want to be accessible. Some, because they want to give back. Some, because they want to be idols. If motives matter to you, be sure you understand them. The access is generally free or cheap. There are some high-dollar coaching programs but you can start for the price of a library card or an internet connection.
There’s one thing to understand before beginning a search for a mentor / model – the most important attributes and skills are common to all fields and to understand and internalize the field-unique skills you must gain these common (actually very un-common) skills first. What are these skills?
They are “people skills” and personal integrity – see “Jesus” above. If you haven’t got these qualities, no amount of coaching or studying will make you successful.
There are some excellent resources for understanding your skills.
So, here’s two lists of resources – Personal Skills and Business Skills
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